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[AmyMay]

Thank you for the details @Red-1 . My OH and I need to put our affairs in order, so this is really useful.

 

[SEL]

In my head I call @Andie02 hubbie Andy as well so if I ever need to speak to him he's just going to have to answer to Andy But always been phenomenal about helping people on here

Red - I'm in awe of how well you are putting one foot in front of the other and dealing with everything being thrown your way. I'm no use except with virtual hugs - I'd have been completely useless with the TV too.

 

[Kunoichi73]

@Red-1 you are dealing with this horrible situation magnificently. You deserve a medal.

I love how people on this forum are so willing to help and support each other, even though noone knows who each other are in real life! Everyone deserves a medal!

 

[scats]

Red you are incredible xx

 

[HollyWoozle]

I’m so sorry, I was ‘liking’ away at your posts about Rigsby before I read your terribly sad news. I wish I had something useful to say but I just wanted to send you my condolences. From the few bits I’ve seen it strikes me that your husband lived a full and happy life with you and I only wish that it could have been longer. You seem so brave but please know it’s OK to not to achieve much sometimes too, if you feel you need some time simply to rest and process this awful shock.

 

[Red-1]

In my head I call @Andie02 hubbie Andy as well so if I ever need to speak to him he's just going to have to answer to Andy But always been phenomenal about helping people on here

I think you would be safe to do that!

He sounded like such a kind and thorough person.

I have been surprised to find that many of my friends have also no clue as to how to work the TV. I thought I'd be a one off!

 

[cauda equina]

Your experiences are a good reminder that there should not be 'girl jobs' and 'boy jobs'
Women need to know how to work the tv, men need to know how to sew on buttons

 

[Kunoichi73]

I think you would be safe to do that!

He sounded like such a kind and thorough person.

I have been surprised to find that many of my friends have also no clue as to how to work the TV. I thought I'd be a one off!

A few years ago when I was working abroad my mum called me and told me the digibox wasn't working. I had to try to help fix it via Skype. We ended up doing the switch it off at the wall thing, which worked! I think my dad had been rapidly changing channels and frozen the memory.

 

[Red-1]

A few years ago when I was working abroad my mum called me and told me the digibox wasn't working. I had to try to help fix it via Skype. We ended up doing the switch it off at the wall thing, which worked! I think my dad had been rapidly changing channels and frozen the memory.

I have now remembered that the remote we use is really for the Sky and it has another to actually turn it off, but that is an a drawer as apparently David has been also using Alexa!

 

[AmyMay]

I have now remembered that the remote we use is really for the Sky and it has another to actually turn it off, but that is an a drawer as apparently David has been also using Alexa!

This is why women only should be in charge of household technology. We’d never make things so complicated

 

[Red-1]

Morning all! Dogs got me up at 05.15 again. Ready to tackle another day. Firstly I congratulated myself for remembering to get the bins out! Such a little thing but it would have bothersome consequences if I'd forgotten.

3 extra jobs today of a domestic nature and then it's time to start paperwork, as Andi's husband has allocated me 2 tasks that don't require a death cert. They are my two paperwork tasks.

Rigs is desperate for his legs to be clipped too. I keep his mallanders under control by clipping and washing every week. For understandable reasons, it has been 10 days now and I had to use pig oil yesterday as they were getting crusty. Can't do that before 7am though or it would wake the neighbours.

Then, poor vets! I have a routine appointment scheduled for teeth, worm count and Rigs' vaccination, along with an exam for his asthma. I called yesterday to say that I won't be on top form. They said about moving the appointment, but no, Rigs needs his vaccination and I need a task to complete and I'm afraid Adam has won it! Adam is a lovely vet. Both my boys are no bother, can have vaccinations whilst tied up and have Adam do teeth without any other restraint. I just know that, if I were him, I would not be looking forward to visiting "Death House" less that a week after David has died (within a few hours it will be a week).

3rd task is swimming. I managed this on Tuesday, drove my car. Today I am going again but trying David's car for size. Still making a decision on that.

I currently have a load of back of envelope notes, I guess I could also get a proper list going, sort it out into some sort of order and start to list what needs doing.

 

[cauda equina]

Adam will be fine
I am sure all vets have their own ways of coping around owners on less than top form - they must be used to it, when you think of some of the situations they have to deal with
I hope today goes well

 

[BallyRoanBaubles]

I hope today goes well Red you are doing amazing

 

[Cavalier]

I also hope your day goes well. Andie’s husband sounds a star. I rarely watch TV if my OH is not there so the remote baffles me too, and I don’t have Sky in the mix

 

[ycbm]

A week already hardly seems possible. I'm in awe of your fortitude.
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[SEL]

A week already hardly seems possible. I'm in awe of your fortitude.
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^^^ what ycbm said. You're amazing Red x

 

[Emilieu]

Your care of your boys is beautiful. I have been thinking about you flattening the stones for their bare feet every time I have taken Betty down the stony driveway at our yard this week. Such total attention to their well-being, you are heroic.
When OH is away I am always thrilled if I manage to remember the bins, such a bothersome task to forget.
Hope all goes well today.

 

[Errin Paddywack]

Bins were something I had to add to my regular jobs as well, didn't forget them too often. Routine now.

 

[Fraggle2]

You are doing amazing. Along with your to do tasks please remember to give yourself some down time as well. We are all behind you and there is always someone on here 24/7 should you need you to talk, shout, scream or just need a virtual hug x

 

[Muddy unicorn]

I’ve just caught up with your terrible news- I’m so so sorry. I’ve been a long term lurker on this thread as I loved hearing about Rigsby’s adventures and it was clear how much you and Mr Red loved each other. It sounds like you are coping amazingly well although I’m sure it doesn’t feel like it at times.

 

[Sleighfarer]

I came on to this thread earlier because I was looking to while away a few minutes as I ate breakfast and thought catching up on Rigs' adventures might provide me with a good read. I was so shocked to see that events had taken such a tragic turn and I'm very sorry for your loss. I really couldn't believe what I was reading. You and David sounded so well suited. I'm pleased you have people to help you in real life, but HHO is mighty when you need to retreat a bit.

Incidentally, I have always been in charge of my own TV and it was only recently that I (accidentally) discovered how to turn it off without the remote. I spent six years convinced the button wasn't actually there.

 

[ITPersonnage]

Thanks I had forgotten my bin and I have no such excuse !

 

[MyBoyChe]

Dont talk to me about remote controls!!! I regularly have to retrieve OH from his shed when the blinkin TV decides not to cooperate. I honestly have no idea and if switching it off and on again, or shouting at it dont work, he has to come to the rescue. Pathetic I know but I honestly believe he has made it more complicated that it needs to be
Not the same thing at all I know, but when my first husband left me, almost 35 years ago now, you wouldnt believe how chuffed with myself I felt when I managed to change the belt on the hoover!!
You are phenomenal Red x

 

[Haniki]

A list sounds a plan @Red-1.
Hope the horse are good for the vet.
You are doing really well! xx

 

[Birker2020]

Rigsby has a new job.

36 hours ago my life was happy and complete.

35 hours ago I was doing CPR on my husband, who collapsed suddenly while we were doing a perfectly normal getting ready for bed routine. He'd just put the dishwasher on, I was eating biscuits, when he collapsed.

My neighbours were straight round, we did good quality CPR but the ambulance were not able to bring him back and he died.

Oh God, I feel so alone.

David left our house for the last time at midnight and just am so lost. I didn't dare sleep as I knew that, in sleep, I would forget and then have the pain and shock of remembering when I woke up.

Yesterday, my dogs and horses got me to get up and go out.

Yesterday I turned out and brought in. The dogs were let in the garden and fed. That was my achievement for yesterday.

I am about to do the same today. One foot in front of the other, turn out and bring in. Feed dogs.

How do you lose weight so quickly? I dropped 4 lbs overnight, and I'd eaten before David died, so normal food. My ears are ringing.

Rigs helped me through the illness and death of my mother, I now hope he can keep me sane through the death of my husband who never made it to 60, and missed our 30th wedding anniversary in 5 weeks' time. We had so many plans.

One condolence was that we had a fabulous day out on Tuesday, to see the Lancaster in Lincolnshire. It was a day of laughter and smiles. David was in his element. Another was that he knew he was loved.

Hug your loved ones tight.

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I have just seen this and I am heartbroken for you. How terribly sad. I am sorry I've not replied before, I don't know how I missed this. I can't believe I have, maybe it was because your sad news was in an old post. Massive hugs and condolences to you xx

 

[Red-1]

Rigs started the day with heels trimmed and legs washed, then chores, then... I had the result of David's post mortem. It was a catastrophic cardiac event. They say he was dead before he hit the floor and there was nothing I or anyone else could have done to save him, unless he was actually on an operating table at the time. That is some comfort.

The boys were good for the vet, but as soon as I got in from that I realised I'd missed a phone call from the registrar to go and register his death. I called back but they wanted me in within an hour and 10 minutes, to a place in city centre, where I didn't know the parking or road layout. Thank goodness for a great friend who dropped everything and drove me there! Even better, on the way home she said she needed to go to the butcher, but there is a café in the butcher's and we had coffee and a sandwich. So, less than a week on, and way before I thought I would be, I was having a slice of normality with a meal out in great company.

Back in time for horse chores then swimming, which was also great.

In 5 minutes, it will be a week. It has been a full week. Thank you all for your messages. In 5 minutes it will be another milestone.

 

[ycbm]

I'm pleased for you that there is no doubt about whether David could have been saved, R.

I hope your next week is slightly easier than this one has been.
.

 

[Errin Paddywack]

At least now you don't have to second guess yourself as to anything else you could have done. Thank goodness you had someone to take you in to the registrar. Personally I get dreadfully stressed trying to find somewhere new in town where I don't know about parking. Another milestone dealt with.

 

[AmyMay]

I’m glad the pm results have given you some comfort.

Your writing is very moving - from the day to day chores you’re managing to do to the practicalities of what you’re having to deal with.

Keep typing

 

[Emilieu]

A week done. One foot in front of the other.
Pleased for you that the PM results are in and that they brought comfort. And hopefully also a comfort to know that David would have been oblivious. When my stepdad died the circumstances were very similar - the shock was awful for my mum but we all took comfort from the fact he wouldn’t have known a thing.