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[Kunoichi73]

Glad you have the PM results and I hope they help settle your mind that there was nothing more you could have done. Keep on with one foot in front of the other. Small steps, keeping things as normal as possible.

 

[wren123]

I'm pleased for you the pm results showed that there was nothing you could have done to have made any difference.
You are doing so well I am full of admiration at how you are coping day to day.

 

[TPO]

Oh Red, I am so sorry to read of your devastating news and so utterly sorry for your loss. You and Mr Red were quite the team ❤

If there's ever anything I can do I'm a PM away. I can also vouch for Chaps89 & Indy, who are closer and have offered help. They are real and lovely, genuine people.

 

[Red-1]

Dogs got me up at 5.30 again.

I am determined to do something with BH today, even if that means paperwork is delayed. Because of the coroner and registrar and going to town, I didn't do yesterdays paperwork tasks as yet. So, no list, no 2 important tasks. But I feel overwhelmed, so if it has to wait until after the weekend, then that is OK. I need to keep breathing, as in not overwhelmed.

Today I will scan in one of the certificates so I can email them. I tried to order 6 of them but the registrar said that most people find that 2 or 3 is enough as most places still accept a scanned copy. So much to do.

I realised last thing, last night, that I'd not heard from a good friend of David, which was unexpected. So, I called him from David's phone as that is the only place his number is stored. He answered the phone with, "Alright Pal!" They have been mates for years so it was a sh£t job to explain why it was me, not David on the phone. I had to do the same for his brother last week, spoiled his holiday in France. I worry about who else I have neglected to inform.

 

[cauda equina]

Enjoy your ride on BH - I hope your weather is better than mine!

 

[Rumtytum]

Absolutely right to delay the paperwork and do your ride, I hope you enjoy it. You are more important than any tasks.
Still thinking a lot about you.

 

[gallopingby]

Hope you have a nice ride Red and are able to enjoy being out in some decent or semi decent weather, it’s back to cold and windy here. Good that they’ll still accept scans for certificates, l had 6 when my mother died and seemed to spend days just sending stuff off only for more to come back. You’re doing really well, some days will feel better than others but that’s just normal and perfectly ok to put off stuff and give yourself some breathing space.

 

[SEL]

Horrible job telling people who haven't heard xx

Tomorrow's weather looks more suitable for admin. It's wet all day from what I can see so give yourself a break and spend some time with BH

 

[Emilieu]

Oh Red, that is a horrible, heartbreaking thing to have to do. My heart goes out to you. Please do take the day to breath and spend time with your boy, you need to take care of yourself first and foremost.

 

[ycbm]

The paperwork will wait, have a you day, you deserve it.
.

 

[Coblette]

I’m so sorry to read this news Red. Your love and appreciation always shone through when you posted about Mr Red. You are admirable achieving so much after your world has been turned upside down. Sending hugs & I hope you can enjoy your ride on BH x

 

[Red-1]

FFS, Rigsby's eye is swollen this morning, with discharge. I have sent photos to the vet and am awaiting their instructions.

Pleeeese Rigs, not time to be poorly now!!!

 

[teacups]

Perhaps one or two of David’s friends could be asked to spread the word on your behalf amongst his friends and acquaintances, just so you can then only give them the details of e.g. funeral rather than deal with it all yourself.
I would think that’s already been thought of, but just in case!

It’s wonderful that you have so many good neighbours and friends around, and help from eg Andieo2’s OH.

Hope you have a good ride today.

ETA oh no! poor Rigsby. Hopefully just a seed, or minor infection

 

[Red-1]

Give me strength! The vet is coming today 1.30 to see Rigsby's eye.

 

[Annagain]

Give me strength! The vet is coming today 1.30 to see Rigsby's eye.

Rigsby has a habit of providing what you need. Maybe the distraction for a short time will be helpful.

 

[JGC]

Come on Rigs!

Just catching up with this thread. I absolutely cannot imagine what you're going through. Absolutely all my condolences to you.

My mum lost dad at 66 suddenly with a cardiac arrest at home and had to do resus as instructed by 999. They were just doing normal things the day before. You have done so much already. Just in case it hasn't been mentioned, the Tell Us Once service is very useful and Cruse bereavement charity are also very good.

Make yourself the number one priority and take care of yourself as best you can xx

 

[scats]

Hope Rigsby’s eye is ok xx

 

[Hannahgb]

Have only just seen this, I just wanted to say how sorry I am, I am in awe of how you have handled the last week.

I have everything crossed the vet visit goes ok for you xx

 

[Canelloni]

Oh Red I am so sorry to hear this dreadful news.

I always turn with anticipation to your advice to others, as you cut through the nonsense and you show yourself to be an utter rock of sense. I hope this quality will help carry you through the days to come.

 

[Red-1]

Oh Red I am so sorry to hear this dreadful news.

I always turn with anticipation to your advice to others, as you cut through the nonsense and you show yourself to be an utter rock of sense. I hope this quality will help carry you through the days to come.

That is a really nice thing to say, thank you. Thank you all who have said I am doing OK as well. It really helps as I feel, from my perspective, that I am floundering around.

 

[AmyMay]

That is a really nice thing to say, thank you. Thank you all who have said I am doing OK as well. It really helps as I feel, from my perspective, that I am floundering around.

The ‘love’ button is too joyful.

But you know we’re all sending you this

 

[Tarragon]

Red-1 - I am so so sorry to read these last few pages! I cannot imagine what it must be like for you. Your ages and anniversary dates are so like mine and my husbands it made me really think.
I feel that writing these posts on this wonderful thread is bringing some comfort to you; who would have thought that a platform such as this would be of such comfort and support to someone we all feel is a friend in need!
We have a robot lawn mower, called Roger, who does a grand job on our lawn. He makes us smile.
Your wonderful horses and dogs are there with you and will instinctively know you need them.
Take care of yourself.
S xxxxx

 

[gunnergundog]

Am delighted that you continue to post regularly here with your successes, trials and tribulations. Just remember that like facebook, this forum doesn't have to be a 'cosmetically enhanced' version of real life.

Now I am going to be a boring old f**t: l know that you have used Noom in the past.....not for dieting now, but may it help you for the logging of water to ensure you remain hydrated and of course to balance out the cream cake and apple diet?? Just a suggestion, that you have already probably discounted, and appreciate it may add to or be perceived as an administrative overhead. However, 'crap in, crap out' was a saying from days of yore. Keep on trucking Red! Have my fingers and everything else crossed for you.

 

[ycbm]

That is a really nice thing to say, thank you. Thank you all who have said I am doing OK as well. It really helps as I feel, from my perspective, that I am floundering around.

You feel what? Don't be so bloomin' daft, you're dealing with this magnificently!.

 

[View]

Is there an update on Rigsby’s eye?

Sending more virtual support.

 

[MyBoyChe]

I hope you are able to take some small comfort from the pm result. My father suffered the exact same thing, the paramedics said he would have died before he fell and would have felt nothing. Although the shock and the utter awfulness of it all are all you feel now, in time hopefully you will come to realise, that for David if not for you, its the way to go when you have to x

 

[Red-1]

Am delighted that you continue to post regularly here with your successes, trials and tribulations. Just remember that like facebook, this forum doesn't have to be a 'cosmetically enhanced' version of real life.

Now I am going to be a boring old f**t: l know that you have used Noom in the past.....not for dieting now, but may it help you for the logging of water to ensure you remain hydrated and of course to balance out the cream cake and apple diet?? Just a suggestion, that you have already probably discounted, and appreciate it may add to or be perceived as an administrative overhead. However, 'crap in, crap out' was a saying from days of yore. Keep on trucking Red! Have my fingers and everything else crossed for you.

Ha, I reached my perfect weight and have been maintaining. I am drinking as much as I can, but am constantly thirsty. I am also constantly sweating so I think I am running on adrenaline. Plus crying.

I am happy that I am eating cream cake and apples. Plus a full giant box of Milk Tray. I just feel like I have a sore tummy constantly, and feel sick when I eat, so I am just counting eating of any form to be a success. I have even taken rehydration sachets.

I did bake bread and added pumpkin seeds so I am trying to eat proper food.

 

[AmyMay]

Ha, I reached my perfect weight and have been maintaining. I am drinking as much as I can, but am constantly thirsty. I am also constantly sweating so I think I am running on adrenaline. Plus crying.

I am happy that I am eating cream cake and apples. Plus a full giant box of Milk Tray. I just feel like I have a sore tummy constantly, and feel sick when I eat, so I am just counting eating of any form to be a success. I have even taken rehydration sachets.

I did bake bread and added pumpkin seeds so I am trying to eat proper food.

When I went through a period of traumatic stress all I could eat for 10 days were satsumas and all I could drink was tea. As you say, sometimes it’s enough that you’re just getting something in to your system x

 

[Red-1]

Ha, I reached my perfect weight and have been maintaining. I am drinking as much as I can, but am constantly thirsty. I am also constantly sweating so I think I am running on adrenaline. Plus crying.

I am happy that I am eating cream cake and apples. Plus a full giant box of Milk Tray. I just feel like I have a sore tummy constantly, and feel sick when I eat, so I am just counting eating of any form to be a success. I have even taken rehydration sachets.

I did bake bread and added pumpkin seeds so I am trying to eat proper food.

My neighbour baked a date and walnut cake for me tonight, had it with cheese and wine. Perfect! Can't face anything else.

 

[AmyMay]

My neighbour baked a date and walnut cake for me tonight, had it with cheese and wine. Perfect! Can't face anything else.

Win, win.