limestonelil
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WTF? You could decide to do what he wants, then it's proved that he is in control and he either dumps you or gets ever more controlling! Good luck OP and don't be pushed around.
Think of it this way, if you had a child, would he expect you to give that child up because he didn't like how much money your child cost to care for ?
I disagree that the horse should go. It doesn't matter how perfect your man is in every other way. If forcing you into giving up the thing you love makes him happy then he is not 'the one'.
You are still young and I wouldn't be giving up your horse for anyone.
Hi all,
Partner has gone mad as I want to go on full livery (5 days a week).
I've added up DIY costs and it's about £60-70 a week once I include bedding, feed, hay so on.
Full livery is £85 and means I get to go back on a livery yard, have better facilities and more help around a full time job.
Both 25 and still at home. When he realised how much DIY totals up to he has gone mad before even entertaining the idea of going on 5 day livery.
What do you all do when your partner has a big grudge about you having a horse? It makes me feel rubbish and like I should sell and give up but I've always had horses and can't imagine life without?!
Not acceptable behaviour ... he's not allowed to tell you what to do with your money... shut him up or move him on...
Consider it lucky you've found out about this incompatibility at this stage. The who is right and who is wrong thing is irrelevant. One of you will have to change their attitude on this and usually that doesn't bode well.
I do wonder if a lot of people on here are single sometimes. Compromise is always needed in life, no wonder society is in a muddle.
what do you think if this, i was told that one of my horses is wasted, he should be eventing not going round the arena, he should be eventing because he would enjoy it, i was very upset, i am doing my best to train him, he is not an easy horse, he is now 9 years old and i do have plans for him, he is a bit behind due to several hitches along the way, i don`t really want him to break his neck eventing, this is my partners opinion, i value what he says, he is very astute, BUT....
i find it very hard to find words to explain things sometimes, what i feel with this horse is he will get there when ready and if he does`n,t tough, i have had many offers for the horse but he is my fourth generation, and if he just lives a happy life i`m happy, but he will get there, its very hard to explain things to people who are not horsey sometimes, yet they do see things on a valid view point.
the person is my partner, what do you think,? is a horse ever really wasted, even if it has a decent life???
Me too. I'd hate to be with someone who had the 'shut up or get out' attitude.
But there are some things that can be compromised on and others that can't. In this instance it sounds as if OP's horses are not open for negotiation. Priorities are different for everyone, I'm sure OP would compromise on things that some others wouldn't.
This.I do wonder if a lot of people on here are single sometimes. Compromise is always needed in life, no wonder society is in a muddle.
Wishing you all the best in the future.Me and my ex split up last week... it was somewhat influenced by the horses. Not the money side but the time I spent with them which he resented. I knew it was never going to work long term and I picked my horses.
Sorry only just read replies. He hasn't saved a penny and I wish he did have a hobby as most of the money for him goes on the pub. However... His parents can give him a helping hand more than mine so I may be a couple of years behind without the help he might soon get.
Horse is only 4 and about to come back into work from fracture so not something I can share and she doesn't live out as sensitive skin and hasn't worked in the past when I tried on a couple of occasions.
I think I will just have to bring her back into work and see how I go for now. He's not asked me to sell her but has made it clear he hates horses..