Grumpy Jewel
Well-Known Member
Hi, As you will see if you look back over my posting history my life has thrown a load at me in the last few years.
My mare has been out on loan since the end of summer due to finally getting a job, but one with lots of traveling and hours meaning i only have 2 days free. I decided that it would be nice for her to have some 1 to 1 attention as she has been in college i didnt want her to go stale so put her on loan with a view to buy as the girl who had her was looking for a horse to buy in the new year. As you can imagine, its all gone wrong and last monday she has given me her 30 days notice as she feels she hasnt bonded with her.
Initially when i told husband he was supportive, but by the time he had arrived home he hit the roof and has said i now have 4 options, 1)sell her, 2) re home our 2 dogs and cats, 3) move back in with my parents and be able to keep dog and horse or 4) put her to sleep.
Iv got until this sunday to make a decision and next sunday for action to be taken. His reasons being we cannot afford to have another big vet bill (something which has happened a lot since he has been around and why we are financially in a mess) as well as the dog care we pay for while at work and says if you cant afford an animal you shouldnt have it- which i totally agree with obviously.
I feel totally bullied into making a decision and feel like i am going to blame him for having to make any decision in those options.
Who is being unreasonable? him for being an arse, but a sensible one who is thinking with his head, or me for thinking with my heart and wanting not to say good bye to my lovely horse.
Any thoughts gratefully received, thanks x
My mare has been out on loan since the end of summer due to finally getting a job, but one with lots of traveling and hours meaning i only have 2 days free. I decided that it would be nice for her to have some 1 to 1 attention as she has been in college i didnt want her to go stale so put her on loan with a view to buy as the girl who had her was looking for a horse to buy in the new year. As you can imagine, its all gone wrong and last monday she has given me her 30 days notice as she feels she hasnt bonded with her.
Initially when i told husband he was supportive, but by the time he had arrived home he hit the roof and has said i now have 4 options, 1)sell her, 2) re home our 2 dogs and cats, 3) move back in with my parents and be able to keep dog and horse or 4) put her to sleep.
Iv got until this sunday to make a decision and next sunday for action to be taken. His reasons being we cannot afford to have another big vet bill (something which has happened a lot since he has been around and why we are financially in a mess) as well as the dog care we pay for while at work and says if you cant afford an animal you shouldnt have it- which i totally agree with obviously.
I feel totally bullied into making a decision and feel like i am going to blame him for having to make any decision in those options.
Who is being unreasonable? him for being an arse, but a sensible one who is thinking with his head, or me for thinking with my heart and wanting not to say good bye to my lovely horse.
Any thoughts gratefully received, thanks x