Forum Bully Behavior - Observation

[rhino]

Thanks for the Mumsnet link as it was a proper Men behaving Badly type of conversation

That was a very, very restrained mumsnet thread. I'd be banned from here superquick if I linked many others

Here's one more

AIBU to think that middle aged women are really a bit pointless

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet...-middle-aged-women-are-really-a-bit-pointless

All 34 pages of it

 

[Moomin1]

the mumsnet thread rhino linked

Oops just realised as soon as I'd posted!! My mind is boggled tonight - big court case tomorrow!

 

[Goldenstar]

Do you need a real child to go on Mumsnet or will a made up one do?

Well you could make one up ,this would fun until they found out and then well I can't think what they might do to you.

 

[[59851]]

Does anyone remember the one on there about how to give beejays??? Now THAT was astounding reading and would have lasted less than 30 seconds on HHO before it was deleted!!!

 

[Fii]

Clearly a bully! I am going off to cry into my wine now!

What a waste!! Hand over the wine now!!

You're just horrible Fii One of the most vile ones on here. You're nearly as bad as Shils, that's how bad you are

I will take that as a complement then..........maybe ........or not

Fii, I'm not starting that debate again, but a point I failed to get over clearly on that thread was that I was less concerned by the photos, more by her own description of the mare as "fat" as though it was desirable. Fwiw, I wasn't alone in thinking the photos did show an overweight horse, but that was irrelevant to my original point

OK, i understand,...........i think she was just excited to show everyone the improvement!! But moving on......

 

[Jesstickle]

× smug smiley ×
Both x and xx turned up in quick succession
Chuffed my prediction was correct

Bully Being smug and secretive is definitely some form of bullying or another

 

[Moomin1]

Does anyone remember the one on there about how to give beejays??? Now THAT was astounding reading and would have lasted less than 30 seconds on HHO before it was deleted!!!

Don't remember that one - prob before my time - but the one about the err 'unusual position and the bath tap' nearly made me pass out with laughter! Can't believe how long that one lasted!

 

[Shilasdair]

You're just horrible Fii One of the most vile ones on here. You're nearly as bad as Shils, that's how bad you are

I feel bullied.

I'd like to point out that despite my embarassingly large post count, and in fact owning multiple accounts (well, two) I have never been banned despite being forthright with my opinion.

It does interest me that certain posters feel the need to call me all sorts of names, with a sort of righteous witch-finding zeal, just because of the 'daemon from Hades' profile.

That damned Fii is the worst though, isn't she?
S

 

[rhino]

× smug smiley ×
Both x and xx turned up in quick succession
Chuffed my prediction was correct

As I'm fairly sure that both your comments were aimed at me, you are quite wrong with your apparent reasoning. The same as in RL, like minded people will tend to congregate. Unless there's telepathic communication going on; there has been no other contact for me anyway You sound a little paranoid

 

[Jesstickle]

I feel bullied.

I'd like to point out that despite my embarassingly large post count, and in fact owning multiple accounts (well, two) I have never been banned despite being forthright with my opinion.

It does interest me that certain posters feel the need to call me all sorts of names, with a sort of righteous witch-finding zeal, just because of the 'daemon from Hades' profile.

That damned Fii is the worst though, isn't she?
S

Ah Shils, you know I luff you really

Didn't know you have two accounts though? Who else are you?!

 

[JFTDWS]

Oops just realised as soon as I'd posted!! My mind is boggled tonight - big court case tomorrow!

I've told you before, murdering people, chopping them up and putting them under your patio isn't nearly clever enough to stop the police from finding you and taking you to court

 

[[59851]]

Don't remember that one - prob before my time - but the one about the err 'unusual position and the bath tap' nearly made me pass out with laughter! Can't believe how long that one lasted!

Oh good god yes - how could we forget that?? I still can't see how, just how you could get into that position!!

 

[quirky]

Bully Being smug and secretive is definitely some form of bullying or another

According to CC earlier, anybody who posted on this thread was a bully.
* shuffles over so JT can join me on the bullies sofa *

 

[Moomin1]

I've told you before, murdering people, chopping them up and putting them under your patio isn't nearly clever enough to stop the police from finding you and taking you to court

But I thought I did a really good job this time!! Used B and Q paving slabs and everything! Eurgh suppose will have to try harder next time!

 

[Jesstickle]

According to CC earlier, anybody who posted on this thread was a bully.
* shuffles over so JT can join me on the bullies sofa *

Everyone knows I'm a bully. You, me and Dragon Slayer. Definitely the most horrible people on HHO.

I think I must have skin like a rhino, I've never felt bullied on here. And I've had disagreements with plenty of people. I've probably got my head shoved so far up my bottom I just don't notice that everyone hates me

 

[rhino]

I think I must have skin like a rhino, I've never felt bullied on here.

I have lovely skin I'll have you know

 

[ILuvCowparsely]

I agree with this. There are one or two people who band together and take over threads, though some of the worst offenders seem to have left this forum many months ago.[/QUO]

I second this, there are many clique groups on here, bit childish really you can see who they are as the same members turn up on their thread.

I wont mention all the names for obvious reasons .
Its like they feel stronger and more opinionated when they know there are others of their close nit group online at the same time.

I notice it for months before I started posting. I think I will do what op is saying just leave the thread where they are congregating like flies.
I have seen so many times where a poor member has even said within the thread that they wont come back to H&H forums because of the treatment they got from some.

 

[Jesstickle]

I have lovely skin I'll have you know

You'd better report me to TFC then

 

[Moomin1]

Everyone knows I'm a bully. You, me and Dragon Slayer. Definitely the most horrible people on HHO.

I think I must have skin like a rhino, I've never felt bullied on here. And I've had disagreements with plenty of people. I've probably got my head shoved so far up my bottom I just don't notice that everyone hates me

Same!! Except I realise I get a lot of people's backs up with my outspoken nature! I have never felt bullied on here either - despite a good few heated arguments. There are some people that do my noggin in though!

 

[YorksG]

I think there is very little actual bullying on the forum. I do think there are a few posters who like to think that they know a great deal more about most things, not just horse care, than anyone else on the forum and are not happy to acknowlege when they are wrong. These tend to people who are not aware of the knowledge base and background of other posters and do end up making themselves look a bit silly.

 

[quirky]

As I'm fairly sure that both your comments were aimed at me, you are quite wrong with your apparent reasoning. The same as in RL, like minded people will tend to congregate. Unless there's telepathic communication going on; there has been no other contact for me anyway You sound a little paranoid

Actually you are way off and I am far from paranoid, looks like you should be wearing that badge

It just makes me chuckle that these 2 always go together, don't dislike either of them, just makes me that is all.

I should probably get out more

 

[rhino]

Actually you are way off and I am far from paranoid, looks like you should be wearing that badge

I should probably get out more

Brilliant!

Although just because you're paranoid, doesn't mean they're not after you

 

[Moomin1]

I agree with this. There are one or two people who band together and take over threads, though some of the worst offenders seem to have left this forum many months ago.[/QUO]

I second this, there are many clique groups on here, bit childish really you can see who they are as the same members turn up on their thread.

I wont mention all the names for obvious reasons .
Its like they feel stronger and more opinionated when they know there are others of their close nit group online at the same time.

I notice it for months before I started posting. I think I will do what op is saying just leave the thread where they are congregating like flies.
I have seen so many times where a poor member has even said within the thread that they wont come back to H&H forums because of the treatment they got from some.

I do agree that some posts are completely unnecessary and downright rude to some new posters. But a lot of them are just speaking sense really - particularly if it involves the welfare of the horse. It does worry me that some new posters come on here and ask questions about how to do basic things with their horse - and IMO they shouldn't own a horse if they don't have that basic knowledge. I see too many horses suffer or go without their needs because of ignorance on the owner's behalf.

 

[JFTDWS]

But I thought I did a really good job this time!! Used B and Q paving slabs and everything! Eurgh suppose will have to try harder next time!

As I said, forensics makes this stuff difficult these days - not like the good old days when you could gut a girl in Whitechapel and walk away uncaught! You should try melting the body parts in acid or feeding them to wild boar or something. Next time, watch a few episodes of Bones or CSI for inspiration first


I've never felt bullied on here either. I've felt like slamming a few heads together, and I've felt that others were being unreasonable in their comments towards me before, but never systematically bullied or picked on. But then, I am rubber, and other poster are glue.

 

[Jesstickle]

I think there is very little actual bullying on the forum. I do think there are a few posters who like to think that they know a great deal more about most things, not just horse care, than anyone else on the forum and are not happy to acknowlege when they are wrong. These tend to people who are not aware of the knowledge base and background of other posters and do end up making themselves look a bit silly.

Now you've made me paranoid. This year I've claimed to know about engineers, Monsanto and probably some other things besides

O dear, the paranoia is clearly catching!

 

[newbie_nix]

I don't ever find find JFTD rude or out of order. I find her posts honest and straight talking. She always offers an explanation to her opinions and is the first person on here to take the mick out of herself too which I find endearing in anyone!

The thread in question where JFTD said that fat doesn't mean good ended up in some extremely personal and nasty comments being made to JFTD - all because she happened to suggest it was not good for a horse to be overweight.

The horse in question was fat. No doubt about it.

I read that thread at the time and also thought although it was great that the horse had bounced back, I also felt that the owner perhaps needed to keep an eye on her and make sure she didn't go too far the other way.

I didn't find JFTD's comment rude at all, IMO she was spot on. A little blunt, perhaps, but I could see the good advice and good intentions there. As I have said above, I am on a massive learning curve as a new horse owner and JFTD is one of the members whose opinions I really respect as she clearly has high standards and she would appear to 'practice what she preaches' when it comes to her horse in real life.

 

[YorksG]

Now you've made me paranoid. This year I've claimed to know about engineers, Monsanto and probably some other things besides

O dear, the paranoia is clearly catching!

But did you know about them? And did you insist that other posters were wrong when they posted something that you didn't want them to be right about? Of course you may just be paranoid

 

[JFTDWS]

I didn't find JFTD's comment rude at all, IMO she was spot on. A little blunt, perhaps, but I could see the good advice and good intentions there. As I have said above, I am on a massive learning curve as a new horse owner and JFTD is one of the members whose opinions I really respect as she clearly has high standards and she would appear to 'practice what she preaches' when it comes to her horse in real life.

I'm going to have to stop you there. Please NEVER take anything I say seriously. There are many better placed people to advise than me on here

I mostly just post thread diverting nonsense anyway

 

[Jesstickle]

But did you know about them? And did you insist that other posters were wrong when they posted something that you didn't want them to be right about? Of course you may just be paranoid

Well, I sort of know about them. But hardly a world expert! But then I'm not an expert about anything! Decidedly middling me. In pretty much everything I do in life sadly

 

[ILuvCowparsely]

I think there is very little actual bullying on the forum. I do think there are a few posters who like to think that they know a great deal more about most things, not just horse care, than anyone else on the forum and are not happy to acknowlege when they are wrong. These tend to people who are not aware of the knowledge base and background of other posters and do end up making themselves look a bit silly.

^5 I agree to some of this too .


There are many on here who think they know more than anyone else..

The fact is NO ONE knows everything. There is always something to learn, new ways of doing things,new treatments. Useful tips someone has gained who can share the info with others.

Trouble is where I find allot of the problem is when there is conflict on different vets advise.

There is no right or wrong way. You must find the way that best suits your horse, your budget, your vet, your situation.


I have been in horses 46 year,done BHS exams and have probably worked in more training yards, livery yards, riding schools than you would think. I have seen and been involved with more issues - treatment - injuries than most here have been alive, but I would no way would profess to knowing everything . No one can.


Yes times change - treatments change - more knowledge is known about certain treatments .

That's why we should spend more time finding out these changes and new treatments. Not go round shutting the door to anyone who offers their ways of doing things .