Husband hates me having a horse and wants rid!

[Fools Motto]

My husband was never happy that I spent 'too much' (money and time) on the horses. I had the horses before he was part of my life, so he knew full well that the horses and I were a package! He moaned purely about the cost, only when we were struggling a bit with general finances, and I got that. Sometimes he moaned about the fuel cost it would take to drive the 3 miles to the field! My argument was that it was my lifestyle, my sanity. He had his hobby, and his motorbike for his 'time out' . I just carried on with my routine. Surprisingly he was very supportive when I had to have them PTS. Since then, our savings are doing well - (not because we haven't got horses at the moment, but because we are earning more) and he has said I can get another horse. He wants to be supportive and knows I'm missing it very much. It's quite exciting now. Amazing what financial stress does to you - looking back I don't think he really meant some of what he said.

 

[Pearlsacarolsinger]

No I don’t think relationships are about one partner being in control and telling the other what they can and can’t do. Compromise yes, and yes there have been lots of posts on here re compromise such as putting the horse on full livery but he doesn’t want that. He wants rid of the horse. Not so much of a compromise really! I also don’t think a parent is ‘babysitting’ their own children. They are looking after them because they choose to have them. I can understand the husband not being happy about being left with his kids every night when his wife goes out for a jolly, that’s where there has to be a compromise as I have already stated in several of my replies, but not a straight ‘get rid of the horse’ or ‘don’t go to the gym’.

It also seemed that husband was quite happy when his wife was at home with 3 children every evening while he went to the pub. I must say, I think OP's mistake was getting back together and having the 4th baby.