I’ve just arranged pts

poiuytrewq said:
I don’t know. I’d like to for the others sake but it’s like I’m letting him know.
I feel terrible. Of course he’s been great today. That’s what I want. I want a last really good happy week but a bit of me doesn’t do I know it’s ok
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You are being incredibly brave and putting your horse’s needs first - there will be no such thing as the perfect time but there is a right time and that’s what you are managing. He is very lucky to have you and you are making sure his last days are happy and spoiled.
 
So sorry, the last few days are horrible for you but keeping him spoiled, lots of treats and favourite things make it easier. Thinking of you xx
 
poiuytrewq said:
I don’t know. I’d like to for the others sake but it’s like I’m letting him know.
I feel terrible. Of course he’s been great today. That’s what I want. I want a last really good happy week but a bit of me doesn’t do I know it’s ok
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You're very strong putting everyone else in the family first. I don't think any of us make that call to the vet unless we know it's the right time. It's lovely weather this week so hopefully he'll be feeling spring is in the air xx
 
It’s not today. It got postponed to Monday. He’s ok as In not suffering. He’s on lots of drugs.
Not so much fun dragging it out but he can’t be buried this week and OH needed a bit of time to sort things.
Also my daughter wanted the chance to spend a bit of time with him and say goodbye. She’s home from Uni on Friday.
The vets coming Monday morning :(
 
poiuytrewq said:
It’s not today. It got postponed to Monday. He’s ok as In not suffering. He’s on lots of drugs.
Not so much fun dragging it out but he can’t be buried this week and OH needed a bit of time to sort things.
Also my daughter wanted the chance to spend a bit of time with him and say goodbye. She’s home from Uni on Friday.
The vets coming Monday morning :(
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I'm sorry for you that it got postponed. Knowing the day it's going to happen, consciously or unconsciously counting down the days, maybe worrying about him going downhill, it's not easy.
At the same time, it's nice that the drugs are helping him so that your daughter can come, and say goodbye to him. It's nice that she cares so much that she wants to come to say goodbye.
💓


As for your OH, in your shoes I would tell him it's not the dogs that should be worried about who is next on my list. And that wouldn't 100% be me joking.

Your OH seems to have deep going problems with how to handle death. He maybe wants to bury his head in the sand until the animal is definitely on death's doorstep/suffering, but it sounds as if you need to keep asking him how the heck that is supposed to work out in reality, until he stops saying such hurtful things. Is it him who would have to carry the sick dog into the veterinarian that last time? Besides, you can carry a dog (if it's big you just need more persons), but a horse?
Let's say you waited until your horse is too weak to leave his stable, would your OH be able to e.g. demolish the front of the stable to get your dead horse out of it?
What if you wait until one day your horse can't get up from falling down in the most farthest away, or most awkward, unreachable corner of his field, is that supposed to be some rose-tinted, dignified end?

In one way it sounds as if it would be so nice if our beloved pets always went from one day being happy, but old, and then dying peacefully in their sleep without us owners having to make the difficult decision. But on the other hand, it would probably just lead to some owners being afraid to go to sleep, because they're unconsciously worried about waking up to find their pet dead.

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this with the extra burden your OH is putting on you.


ETA I hope I didn't hurt anyone's feelings with what I said above. Accidents happens, and sometimes maybe that sadly leads to a horse dying in a stable or far away field, and there's nothing the poor owner could've done about it.
 
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poiuytrewq said:
The waiting and the little comments to the dogs “watch out she’ll be killing you next too”
He’s such an arse. 😡
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Thinking of you - I am happy for you that your horse is on enough drugs to manage things, and (at least here) it's beautifully sunny and springlike, so glorious to be outside.

And yes, your OH sounds like he is being properly and needlessly sh*tty.
 
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I don't know the background of this I'm afraid but I just wanted to say I will be thinking of you on Monday.

Pts is never an easy decision but if you and your vet feel it's time, then I've no doubt it's the right decision.

I'm sorry your OH isn't being more supportive and his behaviour is completely unnecessary during an already difficult time.

The waiting is the worst but keep in mind your boy knows nothing. It's an awful burden we bare as owners, but our horses know nothing of it. He is so lucky to have an owner willing to stand up for what is best for him.

Sending lots of love and you will both be in my thoughts ❤️
 
This must be so, so tough for you @poiuytrewq 😟

Making a decision like this is the one all pet owners dread, even though it is the right one to make. We are all behind you 100% - after all, most of us have had to do this at some point.

As for your OH, he should be helping and supporting you through this tough time - not throwing in little snippy nasty comments whenever he feels like it. Does he not realise how hurtful and damaging his comments are?

Although the dreaded deed has been postponed, at least your boy is comfortable.

Sending you lots of strength and hugs. X
 
I’m feeling so horrific. I keep questioning myself and all week I’ve been thinking this is the last Tuesday, Wednesday etc
Tonight I fed him and realised tomorrow night is the last time I give him dinner at night, the last time I need to soak hay.
He looks so good, he’s happy. He towed me in tonight, he’s stopped coughing and Is sound.

He’s on 3 bute and 100 steroids to give him a fab last week. I know that but it’s killing me killing him :(
 
poiuytrewq said:
I’m feeling so horrific. I keep questioning myself and all week I’ve been thinking this is the last Tuesday, Wednesday etc
Tonight I fed him and realised tomorrow night is the last time I give him dinner at night, the last time I need to soak hay.
He looks so good, he’s happy. He towed me in tonight, he’s stopped coughing and Is sound.

He’s on 3 bute and 100 steroids to give him a fab last week. I know that but it’s killing me killing him :(
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My darling this is the worst time. Those couple of days befor. But you are doing the right thing. You are not killing him you are giving him peace. Please my dear take killing out of your thoughts. Time to let him rest xx
 
poiuytrewq said:
I’m feeling so horrific. I keep questioning myself and all week I’ve been thinking this is the last Tuesday, Wednesday etc
Tonight I fed him and realised tomorrow night is the last time I give him dinner at night, the last time I need to soak hay.
He looks so good, he’s happy. He towed me in tonight, he’s stopped coughing and Is sound.

He’s on 3 bute and 100 steroids to give him a fab last week. I know that but it’s killing me killing him :(
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**Hugs**

I too loaded mine up with Bute. I've got tears in my eyes reading your post because I felt the same. I knew it was the right time but he looked incredible.

Never, ever easy xx
 
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