I've just killed a pony

Yup. Thanks for the vote of confidence ladies ;)

Vanner you must think me a seriously cold hearted b*tch to think I would suggest people stop offering words of kindness in a time like this!?! What an amusing, if not bizarre, interpretation :)
 
So sorry OP ..sometimes it feels as if our horses are designed just to cause heartache and give us reason to beat ourselves up. Pointless really, accidents will happen, and this pony was lucky to have been helped so quickly.
Really shocking and horrible for you.
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Sorry to read of your tragic accident, OP. I could quite easily have been in the same situation last week and my mare WASN'T unattended. Ironically it wouldn't have happened if she was, because she turned suddenly as I was grooming and put all her weight into the hind foot (on MY foot) to move forward again. Cue me shrieking (as one does!) and she panicked, pulled back and the string didn't break - my old reins did (thank God it wasn't a lead rope). As it was she was galloping around the yard and up and down the long drive for nearly 20 mins. I was the only one around and clearly the shrieking monster from hell, so she wouldn't let me near her (until I produced a carrot....). These things just happen. Attended or not. A friend of mine had a horse canter in a paddock and bump into the fence, breaking her neck. We can't wrap them in bubble wrap and prevent everything, so go easy on yourself. Hope you're thinking more logically this morning. As people have already said, you did what was right - put an end to his suffering in tragic circumstances. xx
 
What a horrid thing to happen :( Accidents happen despite our best intentions hun so try not to be so hard on yourself.
 
Terrible, its clear you feel awful and it's not your fault, these things happen even when you take every precaution possible. Take it easy on yourself x
 
So so sorry for you.I know exactly how awful you must be feeling. I never forgave myself for leaving a new pony in its stable after the vet had been and finding him 4 hours later with his foot caught in the haynet and a suspected broken pelvis. I called the vet up to put him down but he thankfully survived. All that time while I was waiting for the vet I was feeling everything you are feeling now but this was just an awful accident. Hope you can take comfort from all the overwhelming support on here.
 
Op. So sorry to hear this. I had a similar situation where the mare broke her shoulder. She was tied up and I was there. So the same could have happened even if you'd been close.
It's a horrible situation. I know how you're feeling. I'll be thinking of you over the next few weeks.
RIP little pony.
 
I hope you are feeling better today OP.
Accidents happen unfortunately and tbh unless you thought to yourself, "I'll leave this pony just here so that it can break its leg", I can't see that you killed the pony. You were trying to keep it out of trouble by moving it away from the tractor. Then you did exactly what was necessary to deal with the results of the accident. I'm sorry you then had to move the pony yourself - a most unpleasant task I'm sure.

As for your nephew, most 3 yr olds are so egocentric (because that's their stage of development) thatI wouldn't expect that he will be upset for long.
 
This is yet another pack led thread, and there's little to recommend some of the contributors. Defending the OP by a team effort, would make some wince.

We can do the same thing, every day for six months, and then one day, for no particular or predictable reason, a horse, turns or trips or falls or does something which is out of character, and we have disaster. That's what happens when we keep horses, and all so often, the most cautious and the most diligent, are those who seem to have the worst of the catastrophies.

OP, I never tie up horses and then leave them unattended. I bet that you wont either, from now on. It's a horrible way to learn a lesson, and you have my sympathy. I lost a highly regarded 2 year old last year, through my own stupidity. I still prefer not to think of it.

Amymay, however right you may have been, and perhaps your argument had value, but as an opening response, you might have given it a little more thought! ;)

I'm saddened to see people who, though I don't know them in real life, I none the less like, falling out with each other and being equally as vitriolic or more so, than the person who they are berating. It's all a bit sad.

Alec.
 
Thank you all. I apologise, I was very emotional yesterday. I apologise
also to AM, I didn't want this to turn into a witch hunt.

I have had horses all my life and come from a family of horse people. This is the first accident we've had. I feel awful for what has happened. So much can happen in 10 minutes.

Thank you for your kind words.
 
Omg this is so awful! Personally I never leave my horse tied up unattended, would pop in the stable instead, especially with a long rope. I cut the bailing twine as well so it's just a few threads and easy to break but that's because I'm used to TB's getting themselves in pickles all the time.
I don't think your alone in what you did, the kids at my old yard would tie their ponies up with super long ropes to thick baling twine round a concrete post. Pony would be nearly standing on the rope and it would set my teeth on edge watching.
However you didn't mean it and lord knows I've done stupid things. Just thinking about it my horse has a haynet up in his stable (tied to old baling twine) but now im worried about that!
Rip little pony.
 
Slightly Foxed said:
Thank you all. I apologise, I was very emotional yesterday. I apologise
also to AM, I didn't want this to turn into a witch hunt.

I have had horses all my life and come from a family of horse people. This is the first accident we've had. I feel awful for what has happened. So much can happen in 10 minutes.

Thank you for your kind words.
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Hey! Do not apologise :p
We're all here for you, what happened was an accident. Hopefully you feel a bit better today :o
 
Slightly Foxed, you have no need to apologise to me. As they say, post in haste, regret at leisure.

I hope today was a better day for you, and I am sorry for your loss.
 
MaHats said:
I read the original post from Amymay quite differently. Simply more focused on the tragedy of the pony than the (understandable) sorrow of the OP. A reaction completely encouraged by the Thread title.

Perhaps some good will come from it .....

RIP pony.
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^^^this

ETA: Although I am sorry for your loss OP
 
Alec Swan said:
This is yet another pack led thread, and there's little to recommend some of the contributors. Defending the OP by a team effort, would make some wince.

We can do the same thing, every day for six months, and then one day, for no particular or predictable reason, a horse, turns or trips or falls or does something which is out of character, and we have disaster. That's what happens when we keep horses, and all so often, the most cautious and the most diligent, are those who seem to have the worst of the catastrophies.

OP, I never tie up horses and then leave them unattended. I bet that you wont either, from now on. It's a horrible way to learn a lesson, and you have my sympathy. I lost a highly regarded 2 year old last year, through my own stupidity. I still prefer not to think of it.

Amymay, however right you may have been, and perhaps your argument had value, but as an opening response, you might have given it a little more thought! ;)

I'm saddened to see people who, though I don't know them in real life, I none the less like, falling out with each other and being equally as vitriolic or more so, than the person who they are berating. It's all a bit sad.

Alec.
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And yet again Alec is the designated grown-up. Thank you for bringing this unbearably sad thread some sanity and much-needed clarity.

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Theres a few apologies needing made, but the op wasnt one of them, sadly the others who really should making them be arent forthcoming.
op you neednt apologise to anyone of here, you were upset and distressed at what had happened, i dont believe theres anyone on here not tied up and turned their back on a horse at some point, me included.
 
PolarSkye said:
And yet again Alec is the designated grown-up. Thank you for bringing this unbearably sad thread some sanity and much-needed clarity.

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I defended the op and am not part of any pack thank you, rather someone who saw a person obviously upset and chose to try to give some comfort and support, i make no apologies for that.
 
JFTD said:
Unfortunate accident, OP, these things happen. Sadly...


Fwiw, I didn't read amymay's post as quick so vile as you all seem to be - I interpreted it as a "lesson learnt, these things happen" type observation. But I could be wrong. Either way, using the thread as an excuse to throw insults at her is pretty low, in my opinion.
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i was about to type much the same myself! amymays posting style is succint, and to the point. i personally didnt read it as vile, or bullying, as has been alleged by some. indeed, some of the comments directed at amymay have fallen into that category.
OP, sorry for your loss, it was an accident, dont beat yourself up.
 
So when did those of a similar mind, voicing similar opinions and thoughts automatically become pack/mob mentality?? People were genuinely annoyed at amymays post, so they voiced it, so because more than person was annoyed and chose to voice it suddenly it becomes a pack? It wasn't a witch hunt as amymay I'm sure knows how to post on a forum, she does it often enough on a daily basis, we all do.

God forbid the masses should agree on something :rolleyes: all amymay had to do was apologise or explain and people wouldn't have been annoyed enough to commnt on it and it would have blown over. I for one forgot about this thread and had left it as yesterday's news until 'pack mentality' was mentioned.

Just because people agree or comment similarly doesn't constitute pack mentality, people just agreed and commented she was out of order. Anyways I'm off again as I said what I did last night and stand by it and really don't have anything else to say other than

OP I hope you are a bit better today thoughts with you and yours still x
 
Please, I didn't mean to cause an argument, I was upset yesterday and my thread title wasn't the best.

Please, now, leave AM out of this, we've 'spoken' and sorted out our misunderstandings.

I made a mistake, humans do that, I'm very impressed by those who have never made mistakes, I envy you.
 
Slightly Foxed said:
Please, I didn't mean to cause an argument, I was upset yesterday and my thread title wasn't the best.

Please, now, leave AM out of this, we've 'spoken' and sorted out our misunderstandings.

I made a mistake, humans do that, I'm very impressed by those who have never made mistakes, I envy you.
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Awww OP nobody is getting at you you have nothing to apologise for and all of us have made mistakes, I'd envy anyone who hasn't, but accusing people of mobbing someone isn't nice and that has been said and people don't like that when they are only speaking for themselves and not mobbing.

Marydoll, indeed respect.
 
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