Retirement?

[ycbm]

You have SO done the right thing today. I'm so sorry you had to do it, and I really hope you aren't feeling so bad in a few days time when it's sunk in.
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[ihatework]

Unfortunately a sad update. I had a 2nd vet opinion on Monday which was very helpful for me to see what the vets had been seeing. After a discussion it was agreed that the kindest thing would be to pts.

Johnny went to sleep today after enjoying lots of treats and cuddles. I'm heartbroken but hopefully in time I will remember it was the right thing for him.

Didn't help with the yard "experts" and their helpful comments about how he "isn't that bad" and its "such a shame" to pts as he is only 6. Someone even commented 30 mins before the vet came and asked "what about being a companion"..... Jesus......

Anyway..... he is galloping around up there eating everything and anything

It is heartbreaking but I’m glad for you, you got that second opinion and the level of detail needed to make peace with your decision.

The other livery should be ashamed of themselves.

Be kind to yourself, it was the right call

 

[milliepops]

I'm really hoping that the vet visit on monday gave you a bit of closure and certainty that it was 100% the right thing, and the bloody yard know it alls need to learn to butt out of stuff they clearly have no understanding of.

Huge big hugs, the bravest decision and although it hurts like mad your conscience should be totally clear, securing a kind end for a horse is such an important gift. he was lucky to be your horse.

 

[splashgirl45]

so sorry to read this, you know you have done right by him and you need to ignore anyone who tries to make you feel guilty. please look after yourself and try to remember the good times...hugs xx

 

[Michen]

Xxxxxxx

 

[SusieT]

I would retire- I find most horses with degenrative conditions are fine once active performance is stopped (a bit like us - we wouldn't run on the road if we had arthritic knees etc!) - and the majority given a routine, large field and suitable shelter and companions thrive. There are very few who dont settle. It's mainly the owners who worry about it. If he was lame in the field thats a different matter.

 

[Tiddlypom]

I would retire- I find most horses with degenrative conditions are fine once active performance is stopped (a bit like us - we wouldn't run on the road if we had arthritic knees etc!) - and the majority given a routine, large field and suitable shelter and companions thrive. There are very few who dont settle. It's mainly the owners who worry about it. If he was lame in the field thats a different matter.

FGS, read the update then pls delete your comment and I will delete this.

Dyllymoo, I’m so sorry. You did the right thing.

 

[shamrock2021]

I am sorry for your loss he is probably watching over you. Livery’s should be ashamed of themselves. Unfortunately there is people who keep alive horses and won’t pts until the horse can’t physically walk or get up by themselves.

 

[Upthecreek]

Heartbreaking for you, but you have done the best for him. Too many people keep animals in pain with a crap quality of life because they aren’t brave enough to make the call. As for the “yard experts” they will soon be bitching about someone else. Treat them with the contempt they deserve. Look after yourself x

 

[Pippity]

I'm so sorry. He's a lucky boy to have ended up with an owner willing to do the right thing for him, no matter how much it hurt. Anybody who tries to make you feel guilty is wrong. You gave him an end to pain, an end to worry and confusion, and a dignified end.

You've had a horrific time and terrible luck with your past three horses. Please look after yourself, and know that you've got a lot of people supporting and admiring you for always doing what's best for your horse.

 

[ITPersonnage]

RIP fella, you will have plenty of company up there, Dyllymoo look after yourself there's plenty of us who've had to do this last act of kindness too. XX

 

[AandK]

So very sorry to read this OP, take care of yourself, he was so lucky to have you as his owner x

 

[TPO]

You absolutely did the right thing by J. It's a credit to you that he went looking so well despite everything that was going on.

You've the patient of a saints putting up with liveries like that. It's not your issue that they sont have a brain cell between them. Thank goodness J has an owner like you and not them.

Take care of yourself x

 

[Jeni the dragon]

I'm so, so sorry. Please take care of yourself.

 

[IrishMilo]

You should be really proud of yourself for having done what's right for him. The bravest and most difficult decision you could have made. Well done. In a few days I hope you'll be feeling a bit better. Lots of love.

 

[doodle]

I’m so sorry. Know you did the right thing for him. Livery yards are a pain, full of people with opinions happy to share whether asked or not.

 

[Pearlsacarolsinger]

I'm so sorry for your loss, it is very hard, as I know from experience to have to decide to pts a 6 yr old horse. What makes it easier is knowing that you did the right thing for the horse, which you most definitely did. Sadly there are a few idiots around who think they know a lot more than they actually do, who can't/won't mind their own business.

Try to remember the good times that you had with him, that will take the edge off your loss in time.


Thank you for updating us.

 

[The Xmas Furry]

You absolutely did the right thing, now give yourself a bit of slack xx

 

[rabatsa]

The right and brave decision, yard know it alls are a pain in the posterior.

 

[GoldenWillow]

I'm so sorry, you have done the kindest best thing for him and I hope knowing this will help with the pain,take care of yourself. Having had to make the call with a neuro horse the yard idiots should be ashamed of themselves.

 

[Lurfy]

RIP Jimmy. Such a good idea to get the second opinion from another vet. Take comfort in the knowledge you did everything in your power to help your horse and you didn't shy away when the tough decision needed to be made.
As for the unhelpful comments from the yard people, don't give it a second thought. You can't fix stupid.

 

[Trouper]

I think you have done absolutely the right thing - waiting to get a second opinion, waiting until you felt it was the right time to do it and certainly the right thing by him. I know how hard it is to pts a 6-yr old but age in this case really is just a number and no-one could have thought about it more carefully than you. The liveries should thank their lucky stars that they weren't in your position. You were just the best owner for doing what you did and, amidst the tears, be proud of yourself.

 

[Dreamer2020]

Sending you a big virtual hug Dyllymoo. You did everything you could & J knew how loved he was & that you always put him first, right to the end. I'm so sorry for your loss. He was lucky to have you as his Mum xx

 

[Bernster]

sadly that seemed to be the likely end result from reading your posts. Awful situation but I hope you are able to get though it and know you did your best.

 

[SatansLittleHelper]

So sorry DM. If only every horse had an owner like you....tough call but you've done the right thing xxx

 

[Errin Paddywack]

Nothing to add to what everyone else has said. He was such a lucky horse to have you as his owner. Take care of yourself and I hope you can feel some peace now that this awful situation is resolved. At least you won't have to listen to those idiots at the yard any more.

 

[MrsMozartleto]

Sending you hugs and a handhold lass.

 

[Reacher]

DM I have only just read your updates about J - very sorry for your loss but glad you found a vet who was able to make the situation a bit more clear.
Sorry also about the yard morons and online bullying- are you able to remove yourself from the situation (I don’t know whether you have any reason to go back to the yard?) and turn off FB etc.
Take care of yourself and RIP Johnny X

ETA caught up now with the other thread - glad you have got your stuff from the yard and deleted FB etc - hope you now have the space to grieve properly