Meredith
riding reluctantly into the sunset
I have to admit that years ago I had a horse who loved to squash you against things like the fence or the stable wall. I assume it was malicious, but whatever it was it was highly dangerous. A much loved and respected old school type vet came out to do my horses vaccination and he asked me if I had any issues with my horse so I told him about him squishing me against things at every opportunity.
He told me next time he did it to stick the end of my bic biro into my young horses ribs. I did so and he jumped about four foot into the air because it hurt him. But he never did it again.
If I'd ignored the vet and spent the next 11 months of the horses life pushing him and slapping him and hitting him to get him away from me it would have been much worse (for both of us and I could have been seriously injured). Cruel to be kind comes to mind. But not the same as kicking and punching a horse.
I have a similar story about an old school type horseman. The implement suggested was invented a long time before the ball point pen.