milliepops
Wears headscarf aggressively
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The sport for people too scared to do jumping, right ??
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The sport for people too scared to do jumping, right ??
Daffy / MP, thank you for sharing your stories. I don't doubt you've put in the hard graft and long difficult hours.
Do you have any advice for those of us who have much more modest dreams and are still struggling to progress?
I've heard it trotted out on here "any horse should be capable of jumping 1m and riding an Ele test" well that level of riding is my dream and despite trying I'm nowhere near that level. And it does get to me.
I tend to say to people it's fine to have a crack at a higher level / movement in dressafe*, because if your horse isn't entirely ready, you can steer round and not upset the horse by doing a mediocre job. It's a flat arena - the worst you can do, unless you really lay into your horse with pressure, is to post a bad score. Have at it.
Jumping and other disciplines (polox is one, but there are many others) are generally less forgiving. You need to push out of your comfort zone, certainly, but it's important to have your basics sorted and for your horse to be really, really confident at your current level before have a crack at the next level.
*That's the most appropriate typo I've ever encountered.
Weird isn't it. I had lots of support and pushing to do other things, cello and piano lessons etc. Literally the only thing I wanted to learn as a child was riding.My father died eight years ago, but not long ago my mum said he always hoped I’d give up horses. Nil support or interest as a kid or adult, I had to have poxy piano lessons for eight sodding years instead.
I bought my first horse at 28, and I’m 51 now and have just taken on another horse, the original is retired with me.
Weird isn't it. I had lots of support and pushing to do other things, cello and piano lessons etc. Literally the only thing I wanted to learn as a child was riding.
I'm not a parent but I can't quite fathom what was going on there. Other than here or FB friends, I rarely talk to people about my horses because my parents told me it was boring and no one would be interested.
"They F* you up, your mum and dad ... "?[/QUOTE
I’m not a parent either and I’m sure my choice not to have children comes from not having a fabulous childhood myself! I’m over that but like you can’t understand why there wasn’t any support, although I know we weren’t well off. Hey ho!
[QUOTE="milliepops, Dad is still hoping i will give up, he can't get away fast enough if I mention the horses.
My father died eight years ago, but not long ago my mum said he always hoped I’d give up horses. Nil support or interest as a kid or adult, I had to have poxy piano lessons for eight sodding years instead.
I bought my first horse at 28, and I’m 51 now and have just taken on another horse, the original is retired with me.
We could have easily afforded a horse when I was a kid/teenager (it recently came out that Mum was spending ~15k a year on holidays throughout my childhood) but my mother didn’t want me to have any hobby that took away ‘her’ time*. I was allowed a 1 hour riding lesson once a week but no other hobbies or anything that would interfere with her life. Dad worked long shifts an hour and a half drive each way and then they got divorced so there wasn’t much he could do to help with the time side of things.
We have a difficult relationship now. She hates that Mad takes up my time and money and that I don’t have an immaculate house, brand new car, multiple holidays a year to show off about etc etc. Dad loves the horse (he lent me the money to buy her!) and comes to see her regularly ?.
I could probably do with therapy to unpick a lot of it but she’ll have had her own motivations and reasoning that made sense from her perspective.
* my siblings and I are pretty sure she was having an affair.
I don't know really. My dad is still really scared of horses, I think he was probably worried I'd get hurt. After 27 years of looking after my own horses, when I got my ex racer last year my mum gasped and asked if I'd be able to cope with him. I think in their minds I'm still 9 years old ?
They are still not remotely interested now but I'm so used to doing my own thing it doesn't matter now.
Yeah.... tbh I still find it a bit odd and it would have been nice to share this absolutely enormous part of my life with them. But.. whatever ?? it's one small bit of a pretty weird relationship we haveSometimes I appreciate that my parents weren’t horsey because it’s truly “my thing”
Mine were like this. I said a while back I was useless at tennis and mum reminded me I'd turned down them paying for lessons as a kid to keep riding. Well YES! Riding was the one thing I really loved doing since I was tiny but they were never keen and wanted to push music etc. I gave up the clarinet as soon as I could and it festered for 20 years in their attic.Weird isn't it. I had lots of support and pushing to do other things, cello and piano lessons etc. Literally the only thing I wanted to learn as a child was riding.
I'm not a parent but I can't quite fathom what was going on there. Other than here or FB friends, I rarely talk to people about my horses because my parents told me it was boring and no one would be interested.
"They F* you up, your mum and dad ... "?