SaddlePsych'D
Well-Known Member
I don't think I have had proper screaming at me. I've witnessed it and didn't do anything. To my shame. I think the person being shouted at has moved on now (because of the shouting, I believe). I would hope they did report it. I'm still in two minds about whether it is too late. If the other person did report, I am a witness to that.It IS hard I think, because the industry has a culture of don't question, shut up an put up etc. So even something seemingly simple becomes a huge item.
I was shouted at/screamed frankly into silence in a lesson once, and those who know me KNOW I have an opinion I barely said anything at the time, but I did put a complaint in writing a few weeks later (after a couple of other things happened).
I have definitely had multiple times where I thought afterwards, sometimes years later 'why on earth did I let that person (instructor) speak to me like that?!' So my stock phrase should this come up again, though current instructor seems that good balance of honest/straightforward but also kind and encouraging, will be: 'excuse me, why are you speaking to me like that?'
I will wait to see what response I get about today. It's weird, I am left with a lot of anxiety about it. Being 'nobody' in the horse world perhaps makes it easier to speak up as the stakes are lower, but also means I have little power to do much if those are 'someone' chose not to act. It then sits very uncomfortably.